Do you need your soulmate to be completeDo we need our soulmates to be complete in this life?

You might think so if you believe in soulmates, but the truth is no, not at all.

People put so much energy into finding that one person whom they believe is the missing piece to their lives.

They are never happy because they're always wondering if they're with the right person or if someone out there is their true soulmate.

What they're forgetting is that the more time you spend with someone, the deeper your connection becomes, and the more intimate your relationship is because of all of your shared history. The time you spend together makes it so that you are each other's matches.

The honest truth is that you may not ever meet your soulmate, or you may only meet them in a non-romantic or brief encounter.

Your responsibility is to focus on the feeling of being with your match, not of being with your soulmate. You don't need to spend a lifetime searching for that one person because happiness is all around you. You only need to feel it and be complete.


© 2015 Jason Nelson

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#14 Bertram Daniel 2010-10-05 03:56
How can a person love another completely if they do not feel complete in themselves first?
#13 deanna masterson 2010-08-21 15:54
i've spent time with people believing they are my soulmate and then they have said things to me that are angry & hostile. as time passed i've found that their alcohol addiction which i didn't notice at first is the most important thing, but still they call me their soulmate. sometimes you gotta wake up and just be happy's so much better than going along with a pretence. happiness is possible through friends & family, but i think a real genuine soulpartner would bring a lot of laughter and fun into a person's life. that is my ultimate desire.
#12 sari musdar 2010-07-26 22:14
Yes jason, you can say that again..
better to enjoy our "present" moment with some one around us, then expect something we havent have/ reached :-)
#11 Vito 2010-07-08 15:12
Dear Magdi Fizli. That's an interesting concept. Please explain. How is EVERYONE your soulmate?
#10 Sue K. 2010-05-27 10:10
Yes there are several types of soul mates, but none as precious as the Twin Flame. We twin souls, that were brought together to form one spiritual union. We were mysteriously directed to one and other one night, when the time was right. Our paths had crossed many times without meeting. However, when we finally met, each drawn to the same place under very unexplainable circumstances, we knew each other the moment our eyes met. We picked up where we left off, trying to catch up on all we had experienced while apart. We are identical in so many ways it is uncanny, and yet the slight differences fit together as smoothly as two pieces of mitered wood. We’ve weather storms that would have broken many, yet they drew us closer, accomplishing healing that was though to be impossible. And while this life is not free of obstacles, we ride them like waves into the shore. We’ve been together 30 years, and it only keeps getting better.
#9 Rick 2010-05-04 11:19
I agree with this. For sure. I mean I am sure there are soul mates for us as there are billions of people on this planet but at the same time. We have to live for now, don't we? When we
cling to the past and what we had with someone . . . . we miss out on things that might be waiting for us now . . . .

And for sure, the more time you talk with someone I am sure and resonate with this the deeper whatever you had becomes.
#8 Jason Nelson 2010-04-24 19:51
The more time we spend with someone allows us to shed the surface pleasantries or masks and also helps us shed the subconscious judgments that create walls between us and our partner based on the purpose of relationships being - growth. People stay in relationships either because their soul is asking them to grow more and stay and they humble to it or their soul has guided them in a different direction but they held on to the relationship anyways motivated by fear or ego.
#7 Monica 2010-04-23 18:02
I have to agree with Maria. Sometimes being together for a long time is not enough. I'm getting out now of a 12 years marriage with a wonderful men. Today I just can't take it anymore, we have grown in different directions and interests and the relationship is difficult to carry. A lot of things that he does make me feel enoyed...It's not working anymore, and I have tried...
#6 Miguel J. Javier 2010-04-20 13:51
A soulmate is the one person that perfectly compliments your imperfections, and vice versa.
#5 Cathy 2010-04-18 09:18
I agree with Jason. If somewhere on the other side of the world holds my soulmate then I hope they are truly happy as I am.
#4 freespirit0412 2010-04-17 12:58
Don't you really have to be complete and centered to be open to receiving the gifts that romantic or non-romantic connections present? I believe I am fortunate enough to be with my soulmate. I've known him before, and I will know him again. Our connection, it is true, becomes stronger with each passing day. At this moment, in this lifetime, I am complete without him. And I am ecstatically happy, as well as content, to be WITH him.
#3 Kristanya 2010-03-09 00:30
Hmmmm.... Well, I definitely believe in soul mates - but then again my definition of a soul mate would be more like my "compliment", the other part that makes me a "whole"... But,I also believe you can be happy without physically being with your "soul mate", and I also believe that not all of us will get a chance to meet our soul mates in a lifetime - I believe it is only when you are in tune with yourself, will you be able to attract your "compliment"(law of attraction) - getting back to the point.... I believe there are millions of lessons and experiences that are presented to us daily. - which are opportunities for us to grow, in not only our physical reality, but in our spiritual awareness... which hand-in-hand brings us more "in-tune" with ourselves, and with everything that "is". And if you are worried all the time about what might be "missing", not only will you not have time to perceive the things you DO have, but you might miss out on these opportunities for growth, and in turn - miss out on life all together. So live life to the fullest everyday and "LooK" for things to be happy about, and before you know it, the things that make you happy - will start looking for you.... ;-)
#2 Maria 2009-12-17 03:12
I do agree that we meet our soul mates in a brief encounter or in a non-romantic way.
But I've been one of those fortunates who has experienced their soul mates in a romantic and non-romantic spheres.

I still disagree on spending more time together makes you good match. because sometimes its just putting up with someone for various reasons other than "love"
#1 Magdi Fizli 2009-12-14 13:24
I would like to know what is a "soulmate"?
I thought that everyone we meet in our life is our soulmate.
Can be our parents, siblings or teacher in our soulmate?